Choosing what my parents bring to the nursing home is making me see what’s essential

I’ll be moving my parents cross-state this weekend — barring any COVID lockdowns at their new nursing facility. My weekly to-do list is a mess of back-to-the-office chores and prep for the move.

There’s a doodled formula: the rate at which my father uses his oxygen times the longest conceivable…

It’s an incredible example of careful processing of a dearly loved but also toxic former workplace

I’m of an age that for me, first-run WB shows — One Tree Hill, Gilmore Girls — felt like guilty pleasures, not only for their soapy drama, but that as a college, and later, grad student, I should have, by then, outgrown high school storylines. But I’m also a sucker…

After 22 months of uncertainty and sorrow, witnessing moments of resilience has been especially sweet

This past weekend, my daughter’s ballet studio returned to live performance after a long pandemic hiatus. Little girls and young women in gauzy tutus and young boys and men in costumes and slippers took a stage with a backdrop of lollipops and a candy castle. The dancers and an adoring…

A guilty verdict begs important questions of a family long eager to forgive, forget

Content warning: This story discusses child sexual abuse.

A federal jury in Arkansas has found Josh Duggar guilty of receipt and possession of child pornography.

Duggar was a childhood star of reality show 19 Kids and Counting, part of a family that came to prominence with a novel abundance of…

Recent ad hominem attacks reveal more about those threatened by open discussion of gender, race, and power within evangelicalism

Over the holiday weekend, and with evident spare time to be spent casting others as “false teachers,” one pastor (and then a drizzle of followers) took to social media to attack scholars such as Kristin Kobes Du Mez, and then sideswipe Beth Allison Barr, Jemar Tisby, Jacob Alan Cook, Samuel…

Recognizing the struggle of caregiving is important, even if doing so offers little comfort

“Happy National Family Caregivers Month,” I’ve been told multiple times in the past few weeks as I tried to find an advocate to help me help my parents.

Each call begins the same summary: the hip break, the move to respite care and rehab for both parents, a recognition of…

In the terribly gerrymandered state, extreme firearm policies likely to become law

I was a young mom with a toddler in preschool when I attended a committee hearing at the Ohio Statehouse for a bill, that among other shocking moves, aimed to expand concealed carry to daycares (unless the daycare explicitly banned firearms). A few moments from that hearing still stick vividly…

The documentary “Postcards from Babylon,” streaming on Amazon Prime, argues it has

Since the violent attack on our U.S. Capitol, where “Jesus Saves” signs and “Jesus Is My Savior/Donald Trump Is My President” banners intermingled with white supremacist symbols, some Christian leaders have begun confronting a reality entrenched within American…

Sarah Stankorb

Sarah Stankorb is a contributor to GEN. Other works in The Washington Post, Marie Claire, Glamour, O, and The Atlantic. @sarahstankorb www.sarahstankorb.com

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