With so many hearts heavy and brains overwhelmed, it’s a bad time to wade social media.

Last week on 60 Minutes, former Facebook employee Frances Haugen blew the whistle on the social media platform’s algorithms that amplify “angry content” and divisiveness. According to her depiction and internal research, political parties…


The Southern Baptist Convention’s Executive Committee again shirks transparency that’s long overdue.

This week, the Southern Baptist Convention’s Executive Committee fell into deadlock again over whether it would waive attorney-client privilege in an investigation into allegations that the Executive Committee and its leaders covered up or dismissed legitimate cases of sexual abuse within SBC. To outsiders this may seem like a procedural…


HUMANS 101

They say to put on your own oxygen mask first. When the hell am I supposed to do that?

We were waiting for X-rays. When I got home from work, our 19-year-old cat was hobbling on three legs, gingerly hoisting a back foot at a pathetic angle. I’d rushed her to the emergency vet. She howled. …


The about-face of authors such as Hillary McFarland and Joshua Harris causes understandable hurt and uproar. It may be better not to care so much.

In 2010, Hillary McFarland’s Quivering Daughters was a unique breakout book in my area of fascination: women raised under Christian patriarchy and those who escape it. …


When so much is draining, certain words offer restorative power

My phone rang, and I saw a name that had come up only once in the past long, hard year. The name that flashed on the screen was that of a friend who I knew I’d hurt — not intentionally, but hurt nonetheless.

Maybe that’s worse, that I could hurt…


When all that needs to be done is too daunting

Bullet journals. Post-its. Everyone has their methods.

I’m one of those absurd people who makes weekly, color-coded, master to-do lists, segmented to different aspects of my life: work, home, volunteer. …


Research shows existing attitudes toward gender inform readers’ understanding of scripture

Depending upon the survey, about a quarter of Americans say the Bible is the literal Word of God. This can be a complicated position, given that words have variable meanings, those in the Bible are translated from Hebrew, Greek…


Everything felt out of control as I contemplated organizing a new stage of life

I was exhausted, bone-wobbly tired when I turned out the light and heard a rustling in the corner of the room. I’d been staying in my childhood bedroom for the week after my father had a medical emergency. I’d flailed to coordinate medical help, then the long-term rehab he’d need…


Women are more than a spiritual test, a temptation, a tool for resolving oneself against future sin

James Dobson famously told a story: one day he was out driving, and a woman stopped at a light beside him and… smiled. Dobson, founder of Focus on the Family and Family Talk, didn’t “take the bait.” …


A helpful lesson on writing in the lie

Over the coming weeks, writer Sarah Stankorb offers a window into her process. She says there’s no single, right way to write, but a glimpse at another writer’s tricks can offer insights into one’s own methods.

Fiction writers have all the fun. Dragons, magical portals, and flamethrowers, fiction offers boundless…

Sarah Stankorb

Sarah Stankorb is a contributor to GEN. Other works in The Washington Post, Marie Claire, Glamour, O, and The Atlantic. @sarahstankorb www.sarahstankorb.com

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